10 Common Misconceptions About Therapy (And What’s True Instead)
Thinking about therapy but unsure what it’s really like?
Psychotherapy, often called talk therapy, is more visible than ever, with platforms like TikTok and Instagram sharing mental health tips and experiences. Despite the increased awareness, plenty of myths still circulate.
At Ardelle Psychology, we often meet clients who start sessions carrying certain assumptions about therapy. Some of these ideas can hold people back from seeking support early, or make them doubt whether they “deserve” to go.
Here we debunk 10 common misconceptions about therapy.
1. “Being in therapy means I’m mentally ill.”
Not necessarily.
People seek therapy for many reasons. Some are experiencing significant mental health challenges, while others are functioning day to day but want support with specific areas—like anxiety, motivation, body image, or relationships.
In fact, when someone is very unwell, talk therapy might not be the first step. A medical intervention may be needed to stabilise their mental state first. It’s difficult to explore emotions and patterns when you’re struggling just to get out of bed.
2. “I don’t need therapy unless I’m suicidal.”
Also untrue.
Reaching the point of suicidality often comes after a long and painful struggle. In those moments, therapy typically focuses on keeping a person safe rather than diving into deeper patterns.
But therapy isn’t only for crises. It can be a pre‑emptive, supportive space before things reach breaking point. Addressing issues early—like chronic stress, trauma, or low mood—can make a world of difference.
3. “Therapists can read minds.”
We can’t.
Therapists are trained to listen deeply, notice verbal and non‑verbal cues, and respond to what’s shared in the room. But we can only work with what you bring to the table. Therapy is a partnership, not mind‑reading.
4. “Once I start therapy, I’ll be in it for years.”
Not always.
How long therapy lasts depends on your goals and the type of therapy. While traditional psychoanalysis can be long‑term, evidence‑based approaches like Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) or Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can be time‑limited and goal‑focused.
When you and your therapist set clear goals together, therapy can be as targeted or as ongoing as you need.
Curious about how you can get started with therapy? Click here to find out what you can expect in your first session.
5. “Therapists want to keep me coming back for money.”
Therapy is a service, but that doesn’t mean therapists act in bad faith.
Yes, therapy exists within a business structure. There are fees, schedules, and clinic policies. However, ethical therapists balance those realities with genuine care for your wellbeing.
Look for these green flags:
Proper training and credentials.
Transparent communication about fees.
Regular review sessions to check progress.
Clear articulation of therapy goals.
Want to find the right therapist but unsure how? We made a short 4-page interactive guide to help you figure it out.
6. “Therapists will tell me exactly what to do.”
Not quite.
Therapy isn’t about handing out advice like a to‑do list. Instead, therapists help you explore your own values, patterns, and choices—so the solutions come from a place that truly fits you.
7. “Therapy is only for when things get really bad.”
No—it can also be preventative.
You don’t need to hit rock bottom to benefit from therapy. Many people seek therapy to build resilience, process life changes, or develop healthier coping skills long before things escalate.
8. “If I go to therapy, I’ll be labeled or judged forever.”
Confidentiality is at the heart of therapy.
With the exception of specific legal limits (like safety concerns), what you share in therapy stays there. Ethical therapists take privacy seriously—your sessions aren’t part of a public record.
Find out more about confidentiality in therapy here!
9. “Therapy is just venting.”
It’s so much more.
While being heard is powerful, therapy involves structured interventions, evidence‑based techniques, and collaborative goal‑setting. It’s about growth and change, not just talking.
Curious about what therapy is, though? We wrote an article about what therapy is and how it works here.
10. “All therapists are the same—if therapy didn’t work once, it never will.”
Therapists are as different as any other professionals.
A mismatch in style or approach doesn’t mean therapy itself isn’t for you. Finding the right fit—someone whose methods and personality feel safe and supportive—can make all the difference.
Starting Therapy Is a Big Step
Starting therapy can feel daunting, especially if you’ve heard mixed stories or carry doubts about whether it’s “for you.”
But therapy is for anyone who wants to better understand themselves and navigate life with more tools, insight, and support.
💛 If you’ve had misconceptions about therapy, you’re not alone.
What assumptions did you carry in?
What surprised you about your own therapy journey?
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Frequently Asked Questions
Is therapy only for people with a mental illness?
No. Many people in therapy are high‑functioning and seeking support for specific challenges, not a diagnosed illness.
Can therapy help even if I’m not in crisis?
Yes. In fact, early support can prevent issues from escalating.
Will I be in therapy forever?
Not necessarily. Many approaches are short‑term and tailored to your goals.
Do therapists tell you what to do?
No. Therapists help you uncover your own answers rather than prescribing them.
How do I know if my therapist has my best interests at heart?
Look for transparency around fees, goal setting, and regular progress reviews—these are signs of ethical practice.